Can't Sleep? 5 Ways You Can Learn How to Fall Asleep Fast

Fact: Insomnia leading to sleep deprivation could cause severe health problems, maybe even death.

I know that sounds unbelievable, but it is true. In a recent article published on June 27, 2012 by the Huffington Post, a 26-year-old Chinese man actually died after going for 11 days without sleep. Seems he was attempting to stay awake and watch every game in the recent European Championship soccer matches.
Apparently, staying up and going so long without sleep weakened his immune system to the point that it caused his eventual death.

Past research findings published in Scientific American have indicated that it is possible for people to go for as many as 10 days without sleep while not suffering any significant health risks, but that is rare.
While the health of these sleep deprivation study subjects did not experience any serious problems with their health, they did have problems with perception, concentration levels, awareness, irritability, hallucinations and other similar problems. These conditions worsened the longer study subjects were awake. If you're suffering from insomnia, you know what I'm talking about.
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The cumulative effects of insomnia can cause the human body to lower body temperature, develop difficulty in metabolizing glucose and even raise blood pressure levels.

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Insomnia Can Lead to Bigger Problems

OK, so you're not staying up for 10 or 11 days and this doesn't affect you, right? Well, maybe you should consider the following facts about insomnia and sleep deprivation.
After just 24 hours without sleep, bad things are already starting to happen to your body - like a rise in the levels of stress hormones and blood pressure levels. These conditions can lead to heart problems among other things.
After just a day or two without sleep, your body may have difficulty metabolizing glucose, internal body temperatures begin to go down and your immune system stops working. After several days with no sleep, things just continue to get worse.
There are currently no studies that have discovered why going for many days without sleep may be fatal, however, studies done on animals have indicated that going without sleep for two weeks can lead to death, according to Scientific American.

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Even if you're not going for days without sleep, the lack of restful, adequate sleep can lead to other health conditions.
Adequate sleep is defined to be about 10 to 11 hours each night for kids, 7 to 9 hours for teenagers and about 8.5 to 9 hours or more for adults.
Cumuluative lack of sleep caused by chronic insomnia may contribute to other health problems like obesity, diabetes, depression, heart disease and depression.
If you'e having trouble sleeping, you're probably reading this article in the middle of the night or after several nights of being deprived and you need some helpful, solid advice to help you learn how to fall asleep...
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Method #1 - Exercise Defeats Insomnia

It has been common knowledge for some time that exercise may help beat insomnia. As a matter of fact, exercise is one of the most effective methods to lessen or beat insomnia.
Exercise is known as a beneficial stressor to the human body. Your brain actually knows how to compensate for the exercise by increasing the amount of time you sleep.

Exercise also promotes the best, restful stage 4 sleep. One note here, you should not exercise for at least 4 hours before going to bed.
 study done at Stanford University of Medicine showed that people who exercised for 20-30 minutes each day fell asleep up to 50% faster and slept longer.

Method #2 - Cell Phones and Falling Asleep

If you want to learn how to fall asleep fast, simply turn off cell phone 1 hour before bed. Recent research indicates that the electromagnetic radiation produced by cell phones and other WiFi devices may actually hinder the ability to get to sleep.
All brain activity comes from bioelectrical pulses generated and transmitted by neurons through a system of complex neural circuits. Electrical brain wave patterns may be disrupted by signals produced by a cell phone, causing aberrations in normal sleep patterns - sometimes long after the cell phone is turned off. Turn off the cell phone may help you beat insomnia.
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Method #3 - Aromatherapy, Essential Oils and Insomnia

Some of the best essential oils used in aromatherapy to treat insomnia include clary sage, bergamot, chamomile, jasmine, frankincense, marjoram, lavender, sandalwood, rose and ylang ylang.

In Europe years ago, children were sent to bed with a small herb-filled pillow filled with hops, lavender, chamomile, melissa and dill to help them sleep. Adults would make pillows filled with dried hops which have a natural, mild sedative effect.
Other effective insomnia treatments include a warm bath with chamomile and lavender oil added. Some aromatherapy treatments may be obtained by burning an aroma scented candle. You can find more information and essential oil recipes to beat insomnia and learn how to fall asleep at the link below:

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Method #4 - Take an Imagination Vacation

The main trick to this method of learning how to fall asleep fast is bringing the outside awareness of your surroundings to the inside of your mind. Some have a fancy term for this - guided imagery.
I just call it a little imagination vacation. In simplest terms possible, this is how it works: When awake, your mind is aware of external surroundings and images.
Images are how your mind communicates with your body. When you think of a place from your past, you see it in your mind. Your mind also remembers the feelings and sensations associated with that memory.
When you see that place in your mind's eye, the mind tells your body to experience those associated feelings and sensations. In other words, if you can imagine a relaxing place in your mind, your body will also relax.
Reading does the same thing by causing you to see images in your mind rather than outside, or in plain sight. This inward imagining makes it easier to learn how to fall asleep fast and beat insomnia.
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Method #5 - Melatonin for Insomnia

Researchers at the Massachusetts Institute of Technology (MIT) discovered that melatonin (a hormone normally secreted at night in humans) can help adults get a better night's sleep - especially older adults.
According to this study, about 0.3 milligrams was enough to restore normal sleep patterns and sleep all the way through the night. Melatonin is a natural substance and readily available in most health food stores and the most popular dosage is 3 milligrams - that's about 10 times the amount used in the MIT study.
Too much melatonin can actually cause potentially serious side effects and even cause a "melatonin hangover" in some people. Before using any substance, it's best to check with your doctor first.
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The perfectionist sculptor

A gentleman once visited a temple under construction where he saw a sculptor making an idol of God.

Suddenly he noticed a similar idol lying nearby. Surprised, he asked the sculptor, “Do you need two statues of the same idol?”

“No,” said the sculptor without looking up, “We need only one, but the first one got damaged at the last stage.”

The gentleman examined the idol and found no apparent damage. “Where is the damage?” he asked.

“There is a scratch on the nose of the idol.” said the sculptor, still busy with his work.

“Where are you going to install the idol?”

The sculptor replied that it would be installed on a pillar twenty feet high.

“If the idol is that far, who is going to know that there is a scratch on the nose?” the gentleman asked.

The sculptor stopped his work, looked up at the gentleman, smiled and said,

“I know it and God knows it!”

Moral – The desire to excel should be exclusive of the fact whether someone appreciates it or not. Excellence is a drive from inside, not outside. Excel at a task today – not necessarily for someone else to notice but for your own satisfaction.

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Positive Quotes

“Keep true, never be ashamed of doing right; decide on what you think is right and stick to it.”
T.S. Eliot
“If you think about disaster, you will get it. Brood about death and you hasten your demise. Think positively and masterfully, with confidence and faith, and life becomes more secure, more fraught with action, richer in achievement and experience.”
Swami Vivekananda
“The sun does not shine for a few trees and flowers, but for the wide world’s joy.”
Henry Ward Beecher
“The positive thinker sees the invisible, feels the intangible, and achieves the impossible.”
“Instead of thinking about what you’re missing, try thinking about what you have that everyone else is missing.”
“There is little difference in people, but that little difference makes a big difference. The little difference is attitude. The big difference is whether it is positive or negative.”
W. Clement Stone
“The pessimist sees difficulty in every opportunity. The optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.”
Winston Churchill
“You’ve done it before and you can do it now. See the positive possibilities. Redirect the substantial energy of your frustration and turn it into positive, effective, unstoppable determination.”
Ralph Marston
“Be yourself. Above all, let who you are, what you are, what you believe, shine through every sentence you write, every piece you finish.”
John Jakes
“Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for.”
Epicurus
“When you put faith, hope and love together, you can raise positive kids in a negative world.”
“To begin to think with purpose is to enter the ranks of those strong ones who only recognize failure as one of the pathways to attainment.”
James Allen
“I am not afraid of tomorrow, for I have seen yesterday and I love today.”
William Allen White
“When the sun rises, it rises for everyone.”
“When you get into a tight place and everything goes against you, till it seems as though you could not hold on a minute longer, never give up then, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn.”
Harriet Beecher Stowe
“That’s my gift. I let that negativity roll off me like water off a duck’s back. If it’s not positive, I didn’t hear it. If you can overcome that, fights are easy.”
George Foreman
“Positive thinking will let you do everything better than negative thinking will.”
Zig Ziglar
“It is important that you recognize your progress and take pride in your accomplishments. Share your achievements with others. Brag a little. The recognition and support of those around you is nurturing.”
Rosemarie Rossetti
“If you don’t stand for something you will fall for anything.”
Malcolm X
“Think like a queen. A queen is not afraid to fail. Failure is another steppingstone to greatness.”
Oprah Winfrey
“Once you replace negative thoughts with positive ones, you’ll start having positive results.”
Willie Nelson
“Fear less, hope more; Eat less, chew more; Whine less, breathe more; Talk less, say more; Love more, and all good things will be yours”
Swedish Proverb
“These then are my last words to you. Be not afraid of life. Believe that life is worth living and your belief will help create the fact.”
William James


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Love Quotes

“Love is just a word until someone comes along and gives it meaning.”
“Every man is afraid of something. That’s how you know he’s in love with you; when he is afraid of losing you.”
“Love is like an earthquake-unpredictable, a little scary, but when the hard part is over you realize how lucky you truly are.”
“The love that lasts the longest is the love that is never returned.”
William Somerset Maugham
“For it was not into my ear you whispered, but into my heart. It was not my lips you kissed, but my soul.”
Judy Garland
“One of the hardest things in life is watching the person you love, love someone else.”
“If you love somebody, let them go. If they return, they were always yours. If they don’t, they never were.”
“Trying to make someone fall in love with you is about as pointless as trying to control who you fall in love with.”
“It takes a minute to have a crush on someone, an hour to like someone and a day to love someone – but it takes a lifetime to forget someone.”
“Laugh as much as you breathe and love as long as you live.”
“To the world you may be just one person, but to one person you may be the world.”
“I love you not because of who you are, but because of who I am when I am with you.”
“You don’t love someone for their looks, or their clothes, or for their fancy car, but because they sing a song only you can hear.”
“It hurts to love someone and not be loved in return, but what is the most painful is to love someone and never find the courage to let the person know how you feel.”

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Funny Jokes

Physics Teacher: Isaac Newton was sitting under a tree when an apple fell on his head and he discovered gravity. Isn’t that wonderful?
Student: Yes sir, if he had been sitting in class looking at books like us, he wouldn’t have discovered anything.

Two factory workers are talking.
Woman: I can make the boss give me the day off.
Man: And how would you do that?
Woman: “Just wait and see.” She then hangs upside-down from the ceiling.
Boss comes in: What are you doing?
Woman: I’m a light bulb.
Boss: You’ve been working so much that you’ve gone crazy. I think you need to take the day off.
The man starts to follow her and the boss says: Where are you going?
The man says: I’m going home, too. I can’t work in the dark.

A man is talking to God.
The man: God, how long is a million years?
God: To me, it’s about a minute.
The man: God, how much is a million dollars?
God: To me it’s a penny.
The man: God, may I have a penny?
God: Wait a minute.

A little girl came home from school and said to her mother, “Mommy, today in school I was punished for something that I didn’t do.”
The mother exclaimed, “But that’s terrible! I’m going to have a talk with your teacher about this … by the way, what was it that you didn’t do?”
The little girl replied, “My homework.”

The students were lined up in the cafeteria for lunch. At the head of the table was a large pile of apples. The nun made a note, and posted on the apple tray: “Take only ONE. God is watching.”
Moving further along the lunch line, at the other end of the table was a large pile of chocolate chip cookies. A child had written a note, “Take all you want. God is watching the apples.”

Teacher: Why are you late, Joseph?
Joseph: Because of a sign down the road.
Teacher: What does a sign have to do with your being late?
Joseph: The sign said, “School Ahead, Go Slow!”

The teacher of the earth science class was lecturing on map reading.
After explaining about latitude, longitude, degrees and minutes the teacher asked, “Suppose I asked you to meet me for lunch at 23 degrees, 4 minutes north latitude and 45 degrees, 15 minutes east longitude…?”
After a confused silence, a voice volunteered, “I guess you’d be eating alone.”

“Isn’t the principal a dummy!” said a boy to a girl.
“Well, do you know who I am?” asked the girl.
“No.” replied the boy.
“I’m the principal’s daughter.” said the girl.
“And do you know who I am?” asked the boy.
“No,” she replied.
“Thank goodness!” said the boy with a sign of relief.

Teacher asked George: how can you prove the earth is round?
George replied: I can’t. Besides, I never said it was.

Teacher: Here is a math problem. If your dad earned $300 dollars a week and he gave your mother half, what should he have?
Student: A heart attack.

Teacher: This essay on your dog is, word for word, the same as your brother’s.
Student: Yes, sir, it is the same dog.

Teacher: If you had one dollar and you asked your father for another, how many dollars would you have?
Vincent: One dollar.
Teacher: You don’t know your arithmetic.
Vincent: You don’t know my father.

Sylvia: Dad, can you write in the dark?
Dad: I think so. What do you want me to write?
Sylvia: Your name on this report card.

Mother: Why did you get such a low mark on that test?
Junior: Because of absence.
Mother: You mean you were absent on the day of the test?
Junior: No, but the kid who sits next to me was.

Teacher: John, why are you doing your math multiplication on the floor?
John: You told me to do it without using tables.

Teacher: Winnie, name one important thing we have today that we didn’t have ten years ago.
Winnie: Me.

Teacher: George Washington not only chopped down his father’s cherry tree, but also admitted it. Now, Louie, do you know why his father didn’t punish him?
Louie: Because George still had the axe in his hand.

Marriage – very touching!

When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly.

She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?

I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn’t love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company.

She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn’t have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane.

When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day.

She requested that every day for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door every morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions. She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.

My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me.

On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn’t tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

Suddenly it hit me… she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that our life lacked intimacy.

I drove to office… jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind… I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart.

Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away.

At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed – dead.

My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push thru with the divorce –At least, in the eyes of our son— I’m a loving husband…

The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!

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Reason for Life

Touching Photo of Baby Grasping Doctor’s Finger From the Womb During C-Section Goes Viral

It’s not the first time such a moving photo has been taken, but the imagery of a baby’s finger reaching up out of the womb is causing a stir in the pro-life community yet again.
The image snapped of the baby being delivered via a Cesarean section in Phoenix in October was released just before the new year and has gone viral. According to AZFamily.com, the photo of Nevaeh — heaven spelled backwards — reaching into the outside world she was about to join has been viewed more than 10,000 times and liked by more than 1,000 people on Facebook.

(Image: A Classic Pin Up/Facebook)

Here’s more from AZFamily on the events surrounding the photograph:

“It was such an amazing photo.  [Hospital staff] had possibly heard of it happening but they had never seen a photo of it,” said Alicia Atkins, Nevaeh’s mother.
Few lives will be as well documented as little Nevaeh’s. Her mother is a professional photographer who owns A Classic Pin-Up in Glendale. However, it was her dad, Randy, who snapped the picture.
“The doctor called me over and said, ‘Hey, she’s grabbing my finger.’  So I ran over there and just grabbed the shot and I was just in awe looking at it.  It was such an amazing picture,” said Randy Atkins, adding that he was nervous about missing the precious and fleeting moment as he hurried to snap a picture.

Alicia said they had never intended to share the photo publicly, thinking many would find it “disgusting.” But that didn’t end up being the case. She also told AZFamily there have been offers to purchase the photograph.
On her A Classic Pin Up Facebook page, Alicia wrote that she is “in awe of this photo” and considers it “something to remember forever.”
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Funny quotes

“I am going to call my kids Ctrl, Alt and Delete. Then if they muck up I will just hit them all at once.”

Author Unknown

“A computer once beat me at chess, but it was no match for me at kick boxing.”

Emo Philips

“My life needs editing.”

Mort Sahl

“By the time a man realizes that his father was right, he has a son who thinks he’s wrong.”

Charles Wadsworth

“Ladies first. Pretty ladies sooner.”

Author Unknown

“Men marry women with the hope they will never change. Women marry men with the hope they will change. Invariably they are both disappointed.”

Albert Einstein

“The quickest way to double your money is to fold it over and put it back in your pocket.”

Will Rogers

“A successful man is one who makes more money than his wife can spend. A successful woman is one who can find such a man.”

Lana Turner

“Before you criticize someone, you should walk a mile in their shoes. That way when you criticize them, you are a mile away from them and you have their shoes.”

Jack Handey

“A day without sunshine is like, you know, night.”

Steve Martin

“A lot of people are afraid of heights. Not me, I’m afraid of widths.”

Steven Wright

“Housework can’t kill you, but why take a chance?”

Phyllis Diller

“A stockbroker urged me to buy a stock that would triple its value every year. I told him, ‘At my age, I don’t even buy green bananas.’”

Claude Pepper

“My most brilliant achievement was my ability to be able to persuade my wife to marry me.”

Winston Churchill

“The only time a woman really succeeds in changing a man is when he is a baby.”

Natalie Wood

“I would never die for my beliefs because I might be wrong.”

Bertrand Russell

“I never drink water because of the disgusting things that fish do in it.”

W. C. Fields

“I’m writing a book. I’ve got the page numbers done.”

Steven Wright

“Originality is the fine art of remembering what you hear but forgetting where you heard it.”

Laurence J. Peter

“A woman’s mind is cleaner than a man’s: She changes it more often.”

Oliver Herford

“Why do they call it rush hour when nothing moves?”

Robin Williams

“There’s no such thing as soy milk. It’s soy juice.”

Lewis Black

“My uncle Sammy was an angry man. He had printed on his tombstone: ‘What are you looking at?’”

Margaret Smith

“If at first you don’t succeed, find out if the loser gets anything.”

William Lyon Phelps

“Mail your packages early so the post office can lose them in time for Christmas.”

Johnny Carson

“If you die in an elevator, be sure to push the up button.”

Sam Levenson

“If you think nobody cares if you’re alive, try missing a couple of payments.”

Earl Wilson

“A bank is a place that will lend you money if you can prove that you don’t need it.”

Bob Hope

“The human brain is a wonderful thing. It starts working the moment you are born, and never stops until you stand up to speak in public.”

George Jessel

“Regular naps prevent old age, especially if you take them while driving.”

Author Unknown

“Marriage is a relationship in which one person is always right and the other is the husband!”

Author Unknown

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A couple’s heartbreak

A boy was born to a couple after eleven years of marriage. They were a loving couple and the boy was the apple of their eyes.
One morning, when the boy was around two years old, the husband saw a medicine bottle open. He was late for work so he asked the wife to cap the bottle and put it in the cupboard. The mother, preoccupied in the kitchen, totally forgot the matter.
The boy saw the bottle and playfully went to it and, fascinated with its color, drank it all. It happened to be a poisonous medicine meant for adults in small dosages.
When the child collapsed, the mother hurried him to the hospital, where he died. The mother was stunned; she was terrified. How would she face her husband?
When the distraught father came to the hospital and saw the dead child, he looked at his wife and uttered just four words.
“I Love You Darling.”
The husband’s totally unexpected reaction is proactive behavior. The child is dead. He can never be brought back to life. There is no point in finding fault with the mother. Besides, if only he have taken time to put the bottle away, this would not have happened.
No point in attaching blame. She had also lost her only child. What she needed at that moment was consolation and sympathy from the husband. That is what he gave her.

Sometimes we spend time asking who is responsible or who’s to blame, whether in a relationship, in a job or with the people we know and miss out on the warmth in human relationships we could receive by giving each other support.
After all, shouldn’t forgiving someone we love be the easiest thing in the world to do?
Treasure what you have. Don’t multiply pain, anguish and suffering by holding onto forgiveness. Let go of all your envies, jealousies, unwillingness to forgive, selfishness, and fears and you will find things are actually not as difficult as you think.
If everyone could look at life with this kind of perspective, there would be fewer problems in the world.

Author Unknown